Apology Letter to Friend for Rudeness

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She was too wrapped up in everything going on to call me. I call it not knowing any better, and not caring enough to learn about other people. Will you forgive me?

It is totally illogical, and from my experience very harmful in a professional environment. I promise that I shall not repeat the incident. Not to mention polluting gods earth.

Apology Letter to Friend for Rudeness

Enough with the lame excuses. Rudeness is NOT okay. I find it interesting that when most people read the previous sentence, they either have one of two reactions: 1 They agree with the fact that rudeness is not okay. Are there really people out there who try to justify treating another human being with disrespect? Do I seriously think that I can drastically reduce the amount of rudeness in this world? Will it be easy? Even worse is the fact that many people make excuses for their rudeness, and to me, that is the real problem that needs to come to an immediate end. No one is going to disrespect me. Being hot-tempered is something that runs in my family. Excluding 1 a legitimate mental illness, 2 recently receiving life-altering news e. Please keep it real with me. We all have our bad moments. Trust me, neither is close to being true. Believe me, I have bad days. This is a very real part of the human experience because none of us are perfect. There will be a time where the waiter gets your dinner order wrong for whatever reason. It is always an option to deal with any form of rudeness firmly, respectfully, and with civility without being as rude and insensitive as they are being to us. It may not be easy, but you have to admit, it is a pretty simple concept. The world will only change once we change. And one of the biggest ways to make it happen quickly is to stop making excuses for the inexcusable. Rudeness is not okay. Do you think that too many people make excuses for their rudeness? Do you believe that rudeness is okay? Either way, jump into the comments below and make your voice heard! Shola, You know where I stand! There is not an excuse. Excuses are not a good thing anyway! It took most of the weekend to figure out why. It was because of a few specific people in my life who are hell-bent on explaining away rudeness. I was letting their ridiculous opinion upset me and steal my joy. The fact that it took me all weekend is probably because I am very empathetic. I tend to take people at their word and I truly listen with the intent of hearing. The down side of being that way is that I tend to focus on their emotions and pain without recognizing where it is really coming from. I choose forgiveness and will do whatever I can to avoid cynicism. I took the power of them being able to affect my emotions away! I acknowledged that I was listening, but I did not react or engage in their ridiculous rationalizations any more. I am feeling much better today! I wish you knew just how much you are blessing people. I know that your Monday blog has gotten me through many a difficult or challenging moments. Please, keep on doing what you are doing. I need to ask for your advice on something if I may. I totally agree with you—acting positive while pushing your true feelings down will only cause you to explode. Good luck, my man! Another great post Shola! I really, really like this one a lot. You never know when your smile is going to be the thing that brightens their day. I find that it makes me feel better and it usually makes them check themselves. One thing I need to check myself on is not taking things out on my husband. Sometimes I notice myself being irritated with him for no reason, and then I realize I am taking my stress out on him. Why do we always do that to the ones who love us most? Have a wonderful week! Spring Spring, I cannot agree more with you about the smile thing. Thanks for keeping it real, Spring! People would ask whoever I was with, how I was, as if being in a wheelchair made me deaf and mute. So now I make a conscious effort to be a lot more polite. It makes ME feel better, it make ME feel like a better person. Another great, thought provoking post Shola. I mean, seriously…what in the world is wrong with people?? More importantly though, you found the ability to combat their blatant rudeness with compassion and kindness, and THAT is the goal that I think that we should all strive toward. Maybe, like me, you noticed that the internet is a really angry place right now. I was letting it get to me until I remembered that I could close the computer, listen to some music, and work on a project. Your point is the best one though—you can always walk away, put on some music, and leave all of that drama in your rear view mirror. Well said as always, my friend! There is absolutely NO excuse for rudeness. I have my times when I get snappy. I have even had to apologize to my son a time or two. Thank you, again, for your amazing words! She is worse when she drinks which is frequently when we are together not very often, thankfully at a family function. I very politely introduced myself. She is a brainless idiot. What do I say to reply to her rudeness? I actually came across this post after an argument that I had. That caused him to say that I was misunderstanding. He laughed at me for not knowing enough English, thus he said I was the only one who misunderstood. He started to make fun of me, saying that he hoped beyond all hope that I finally understood. I did, but he kept in saying that I was misunderstanding all the time. He said he was pretty much superior than me in English. Turns out, he was a native English speaker. I said he was being pretty rude and that what he said made me lose any respect for him. He said it was okay for him to say that because it was the TRUTH. I find great comfort in your post after this fight, as I was pretty devastated and hurt by his words. Before he posted those rude things and comalred his English level to me, I actually apologized for not being clear in my post. I apologized for my wording, the misunderstandings and for starting the whole argument. Then he posted that comment and I just felt my emotions pouring I over the edge. It is totally illogical, and from my experience very harmful in a professional environment. Her mother and I have been best friends for. I spent three whole days at her house being intricately inVolved in all the making of the decorations, planning the ceremony, bought the unity candle, spent Hundreds of dollars of my own money, helped plan the music and the wording of the ceremony. I then then styled my godchilds hair for the wedding and made plans to be at the church by noon the day off the wedding to do the bride, her sister, the mother and a friend hair for the ceremony. Then I went home and spent 48 hours straight making the hair piece and the veil for my Goddaughter. I got six hours of sleep then got up at. My Godchild text me at. The while wedding party was at another salon getting their hair done. At 10:30 the mother my best friends text to see how I was doing. I told her I was stressed, running a little late but I would call her when I got on the road. After that, she decided that I would be too late and they all had their hair done at the salon. I arrived on time and no one was there. Nobody ever bothered to call me and let me know any of this. I could have taken my time, has the chance to go get the dress I really wanted to wear, spend the day with my family at the hotel pool, relax and take a much needed nap. All this and nobody even spoke to me when they showed up. What I got when I decided I was so hurt and angry that I was leaving was an excuse. She was too wrapped up in everything going on to call me. How hard is it to text me while your getting your hair done at 10:30 to tell me never mind. But, you see, I had that veil and hair piece and THAT she needed. As if I would be so Disgusting as not to bring it to them because they changed their minds. After all that, I was seated in the way back, by the bar away from everyone and ignored the entire night. I would have NEVER done that to her, to anyone. Lovely This is the first post I have read by you Shola. It opened my eyes and has changed the way I plan to move forward with my interactions towards my loved ones. I was one of the people that thought I could combat rudeness with more rudeness. My romantic relationship struggled because of it. My family and friends felt the effects of it. This revealed to me that there is a simple solution. Say sorry, sincerely, when I am rude, and be aware of how I am feeling and if my next few actions and words will disrespect whoever it is that I am dealing with. Thank you, and you have a very interested new follower. Hello Shola, I was rude to a customer this morning. They were suppose to come in through an xray but instead took a shortcut around it and so I snapped. You are to go through the x-ray not around it! And do you really have to throw your garbage out the window? Not to mention polluting gods earth. People in society need to slow down and think before they act, but unfortunately they seem not to care anymore. Bravo to anyone—parents, friends, corporate trainers…—brave enough to discourage rudeness. As I understand the problem, a historic ideological trend in Westernism is towards greater personal autonomy. In the US, freedom-of-speech-and-expression encapsulates this principle. However, there is no natural or legal reason people must be civil. Reading online comments and participating in online discussions, to say nothing of the broad cultural changes of even in-person interactions, has become so tedious that many of us have just stopped getting involved. Maybe the relative loss of consequence for what we say online has facilitated a cultural shift towards more rude behavior. And in the spirit of personal autonomy, in the absence of sufficiently costly potential consequences, humans will generally continue doing what pleases them, regardless the destructive effects on others. Cross-cultural anthropological and historical assessments bear this out. Best of luck with your mission. A less rude culture would, for many of us, foster a deeper integration into our broader communities, and that, I think, would carry a net benefit. I really liked this article. No, what they should do is look at themselves and change their behavior, because they would not like it being done to them. I call it not knowing any better, and not caring enough to learn about other people. All of us should respect each other, and educate ourselves in good behavior. They were never taught that this is unacceptable behavior by their elders. There used to be a time when rudeness was not so prevalent as it is now. It seems to have increased so much, people are no longer ashamed of it. As a matter of fact, many are being raised that kindness and simple courtesy are weaknesses, and being an a jerk is something to be proud of. Many older people have thrown manners out the window, and parents are raising kids without teaching them respect for others. It is very frustrating when you feel like the normal person in an insane asylum. Yes, you are right, we live in a society of hate. I love this comment. We do need to focus on positivity. The only time I am ever rude is when I am protecting myself against bullying at work. Sometimes I just turn the tables around and say something that embarrasses them, and it shuts them up. I too am proud of my manners. Do you know that I just read an article online that says nice people are irritating! Apparently being nice is seen as approval seeking. Hmmmmmm, this really got me thinking. Until recently, I used to think that the only way to fight fire which, until very recently, was a DAILY occurrence with rude fire. And nobody likes being burned…. Her respond still hurt me. Is it ok that she hurt me with rudeness when I just tried to be there for her the only way I know how? If you are a grown adult and in a social situation the whole idea is to interact and converse, NOT stand by yourself and make minimal conversation. I am a wife and mother brought up to approach others directly when I need to say or inquire something of another especially those who are my seniors. I did not rear my children but they were in my husband, s co. My problem is that all three of them have the regular habit of calling me to them. I readily oblige, but if I am not able to promptly go and attend, they carry on speaking to me and become annoyed when I haven, t heard what they had to say and have to repeat and my daughter, 29y. Surely this is rudeness. What do I do? Disrespect, inconsideration and rudeness toward me make me feel helpless, sad and really down on myself. Often they would get personal and yell for no real good reason whatsoever. I mean, I do say hi and stuff if I run into them. But my life is better off without having people around that drag me down and have the audacity of calling me their friend. Frankly I think the biggest problem with so many rude and abrasive people is the fact that most people either tolerate it or even worse accept it as OK as well as excusing it when they lash out at others. I treat all of my clients with respect, period. I work with people who are irate all of the time and they do so without directing their hostility towards or at me. It most certainly is understandable that people freak out when something bad happens to a server or a pc and their business is down and out. I consult for a reason, mainly that I can and will not allow people to believe that they can treat others like garbage and have it be OK. Worked too many jobs where I had to take it or get fired etc. Sorry just rambling, but your article hit the nail on the head for me. I have always been taught that when working or talking etc with another person regardless of age, sex , religion , race, straight , gay, fill in the blank, to be decent. Do I fall short? F yeah, sometimes frequently, and , like a grown adult, I apologize to whoever I was terse with and accept that my actions were wrong. When others lash out, saying nothing or not addressing it is part of the problem. Bullying and abrasive behavior works to the advantage of the spewer at the expense of the spewed on. I hope for the best but sometimes I feel over here things are only going to get better once people stop being so unkind. I would be very grateful if anyone could help me. To be objective I should have an authentic data from official sites especially about family contexts but I do not know where I can get it. Would you please guide me to any organizations , websites, persons who can help me in this matter. Great article, great insight. Sometimes people are rude to people who were rude to them first, and it becomes a reaction. Other wise I agree with you. What I hate is when people are being paid to do a job, and they are rude to the customer. Yesterday, I ordered a drink on a patio. When the waitress brought the drink I said nicely , I should have asked you for a tall glass. Before I could stop her, she spun, muttered something about having to do it again. She filled the glass with ice, poured the contents of my ten dollar drink into a tall glass, and then brought it back in a rude manner. There was absolutely no excuse for this. I was very nice to her. Meet Shola Hi, my name is Shola and I'm the founder of The Positivity Solution. 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When others lash out, saying nothing or not addressing it is part of the solo. I totally agree with you—acting positive while pushing your true feelings down will only cause you to explode. The action of at least offering to compensate the person will often show that you feel bad and want to try to make up for your behavior. North, there is no natural or legal reason people must be civil. I know that I have hurt your feelings and caused stressful moments. Excluding 1 a legitimate mental illness, 2 recently receiving life-altering news e.